Baby blues 😳😳😩
Oh how underestimating those first 3-4 days are.
I can still vividly remember when I was feeling so underwhelmed, lonely and depressed on day 3 after my first baby was born.
To top it off it was my birthday.
My milk was coming in.
And I truely thought no one cared about me and the day was all a big no show.
No show of any friends or family.
I cried and and I cried😭😭for several hours holding my baby close.
Now I knew that it was just my body sorting things out.
Hormones all over the place regulating what needed to happen.
Milk production, uterus contracting, bonding with my baby plus emotionally getting to terms with a c section that I thought I was never going to have.
These 3 rd day blues are very normal and most new mums go through it.
It’s not the start of postnatal distress or depression.
The feeling only last for 24 to 48 hours or maybe slightly longer.
Postnatal distress or depression often sets in after 2-3 weeks.
Before this time it is crucial you seek help with feeding and sleep.
It is very common for mums to start to see signs and symptoms of postnatal distress and depression when breast-feeding isn’t going smoothly, they are experiencing pain, feeling pushed to continue and their self worth is starting to tumble.
Mix in the no sleep scenario and sleep deprivation will start to take over.
You then have a very unsettled baby who feeds frequently, cries a lot (often is diagnosed with colic) and doesn’t sleep.
Some forms of postnatal distress or depression is hormonal and/or often is related to mums having depression at some point in their lives or suffer from perinatal depression.
Close monitoring is important.
However for majority of mums that I have seen and worked with, it coincides with birth experiences, feeding challenges and most of all sleep deprivation .
So mums I urge you to seek help. 😊
Don’t put up feeling crap.
It’s not healthy for you, your baby and your family.
if you have challenges such as feeding and sleep problems then medication for depression isn’t going to solve these underlying issues.
My believe in all cases of depression it is important to work on your mindset, lifestyle and health along with medication when needed.
Medication may only mask your thought processes but will not work on changing them.