It can be the hardest task to achieve especially when your baby is used a certain way of being put to asleep.
As a newborn your baby does a lot of sleeping in the first two weeks. This is both natural and normal. Food is pretty much the only thing on their mind and not to mention on their parents mind.
However after those two weeks they are starting to become used to their environment and before you know it their sleep has become one of the most challenging times to deal with.
Because we have been told that babies should be kept in our arms, sleep in our beds and fall asleep while feeding. Its no wonder when the time comes to actually get them back to sleep they will protest until finally mum and dad give in.
I can so understand this feeling because there is nothing worse than hearing your baby cry, unsettled and upset in their bed rather than asleep, cosy and warm in your arms.
But I know that majority of the time after a few weeks of sitting and waiting for your baby to have their sleep in your arms. You start realizing that actually you would like to have some time without that attachment because it may be wearing you down.
Rightly so. You deserve to have some you time. You deserve to give yourself permission to gain a little more freedom during the day.
Do not feel guilty for feeling this way.
It’s your right.
So it comes down to how to change the way we put our babies down that will ultimately give you back your precious time.
So here are some tips for resettling.
- Once you start don’t look back.
If you’re not doing it consistently at every sleep it will create confusion for your baby
2. Either put baby down drowsy or awake – not asleep.
We are creating an atmosphere of recognition around their sleep area. For them to see the same pictures on the wall, the same toys and the same bed will create a confident sleeper. They will also feel more secure upon waking.
So one of the reasons why babies don’t sleep well in their own beds is because they have left the comfort of mother’s arms while they are asleep and then when they wake up they are in a different place.
3. A swaddle for babies less than 6-8 weeks or a sleeping bag from newborn upwards.
Just to remember that not all babies enjoy being swaddled.
4. When settling your baby into their bed, place one hand under them and the other on their chest. Then once you feel the mattress, only remove the bottom hand while keeping one hand on their chest. Keep that hand gently but firmly on your baby’s chest or side for few minutes.
This will allow them to still feel the comfort of your presence. Also you can gently relax them with small hand movements and shushing.
5. Stay incognito
One of the most important tips is when settling your baby you are out of their eyesight. Your baby is not going to settle and close their eyes if mum or dad is watching them trying to fall asleep. This is why sometimes rolling your baby on their side facing away from you works better when settling. If they are back sleepers you can then move them back on their back. Or you may need to crouch down away from their field of vision.
Why would any baby want to go to sleep when they see mummy staring endlessly into their eyes?
6 .Repeat and Repeat until success
If your baby wakes after certain amount of time repeat the settling process until you have success or until your baby is too unsettled to keep going.
There is no black and white rule how long you can leave your baby to cry for.
This is totally up too you, you are the best judge of your babies needs. Some mums can leave babies for 2 mins, others are happy to leave their babies for 10 min.
If you baby doesn’t settle, pick baby up but try not to leave the room. Once settled in your arms. Put them back down into their bed and repeat the resettling process. You may need to do this several times to create a successful outcome.